tango criticism by a tango newbie - unbelievable tango decorum

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tango criticism by a tango newbie - unbelievable tango decorum

Pinky
I've seen a lot of weird and wonderful things in tango practicas and milongas, but this is a new one even for me.
The other day I was dancing with someone new (two months at most) and she started a huge tirade of criticism that I was not 'dancing correctly' and that I shouldn't do this, and shouldn't do that.
Her tango decorum completely floored me (no pun intended). I was so stunned I didn't know whether to just ignore it or to tell her to shut up.
Any suggestions?
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Re: tango criticism by a tango newbie - unbelievable tango decorum

sophia
I agree the follower's behavior was outrageous. However saying anything will only increase the tension. As unpleasant as that is, my suggestion would be not to increase the unpleasantness and say nothing.
She'll get the message eventually when nobody asks her to dance during practicas and milongas.
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Re: tango criticism by a tango newbie - unbelievable tango decorum

Linda
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Ew.

At a milonga, that would be a signal to say, "Thank-you for your input. Thank-you for the dance." and lead her back to her seat and go get yourself a drink. You are not obligated to dance with her again for at least a year.

At a practica, "Interesting. Let's go talk to the instructor about this." And go do it.

Ignoring her isn't right.
Telling her to shut up isn't right.

While she -may- have some good thoughts, her method and location were poor choices. You are not obligated to take any of that on, even if you do take up her thoughts with your instructor.

You are both entitled to respect.

Linda