Hate, hate, hate men who are like that!
O, did I remember to say that... i HATE men who are like that. Who do they think they are?
If their natural body odor was bad, I could understand it (though I would say, "gentlemen, tango is NOT for you! Perhaps try solo ballet"). However there are men who start the milonga like that... which means they think it is ok to go to a milonga and have body-to-body intimate embrace with a follower without a shower. Didn't their mummies teach them basic relationship skills?
Personally I think it is completely fine to say something. It is embarrassing, and humiliating, and they will never ask you to do dance again (thank god!) but I guarantee they will NEVER come to a milonga again without showering.
To aida, I like what you say! I wish I was that assertive.
Unfortunately I am not that assertive and just let it go, praying the tanda will soon. I agree men who come tango dancing without showering and smelling are disgusting.
What is really amazing is when this particular type of man, who smells so bad, is also a fabulous dancer.
I have embarked upon this little trip myself, where I danced with this man, and as we set up the embrace, I thought "O MY GOD! Yuck,,, yuck... please get me out of here! I wish I could hold my breathe for 10 minutes!"
But then we started dancing, and he was really really great dancer. Gentle and respectful and fun all at the same time.
How he got that good, I do not understand - because, despite his brilliance, I will never dance with him again. Perhaps he had a bad night, or perhaps he just asks each woman to dance the tango only once ever.
Hi oh I agree entirely, how funny!
In BA almost all of the men here go out of their way to smell nice. But not all!
Once I had a dance with this man, he was an incredible dancer. But I had to stop half way through the first tango. I felt horrible but I could not stand his smell any more. I thought I was going to be sick. I had to pretended to trip, had to pretend I was very hurt, and then had to sit the next 10 songs out "recovering".
I totally agree. At first it was very hard for me for anyone other than my husband to be that close to me. As I fell in love with the dance, I saw it differently. These men are disgusting, don't they know they are turning the woman off?
I love to dance but no matter how great the man dances, I Will not dance with him again. The dance becomes unbearable, I can't breathe and if I breathe, I breathe in their terrible smell. And I cannot fake it, my face will show it. I also try to spray myself with my subtle "dancing" perfume around my hair and face just in case I dance with Mr. Smelly.
They cannot say they same about me because I am aware of the close contact so I make sure that I am EXTRA clean and smelling good and clean breath. I try to be CLASS all the way so that the experience dancing with me will be not only good dancing but a breath of fresh air too.
There should be a sign at the entrance of the milongas- Please practice good hygiene.
I thought I was the only one going through this or that I was too sensitive. I tend to be a clean freak with myself. I like smelling good from head to toe now especially that I am learning to dance tango. I do not want to be a turn off on the dance floor because then it takes away from the dance and my goodness you cannot concentrate. Do these men think that it turns us on to smell something stinky? Men out there--- Please listen! We do not find it a turn on when you smell like "poop", bad breath, onion smell, etc. We don't.
While I will agree there are men out there who fail miserably in every aspect of basic personal hygiene, let's not assume it's only men who smell bad. I've danced with women who smelled like they just stepped out of the kitchen smelling of fried potatoes and onions, some who had garlic breath and a few who smelled like they'd missed their bus and ran to the milonga.
Another huge turn off for me is when I find myself embracing a women wearing a particularly pungent floral perfume, like Chanel No.5. It's gag-inducing.