Problem with the cabeceo ... can anyone help????

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Problem with the cabeceo ... can anyone help????

Kate
I think there is a huge problem with the cabaceo!!! If there is a number of women sitting together, it's hard for them to tell which one the man is looking at. This can be VERY embarrassing! Anyone suggest an idea to get around this?
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Grace
Easy solution. Be very VERY VERY VERY sure that you are the one being cabeceo'd (is that even a word???)!
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sophia
O the good old tango cabeceo. Could not agree more that it can backfire on both men and women!
There are some good reasons why the cabaceo can be very embarassing and milonga organisers should keep this in mind:
1. Lights are sometimes so dim that you can't see your feet let alone another person's face across the room. BIG PROBLEMO!
2. Women need to understand that they need to LOOK at men, not just in front or at the person they are talking to right next to them.
3. Some women and men don't understand how the cabeceo works, and the subtly of it,
4. The cortina needs to be cleared. If it is not, and people stay on the dance floor, then the cabeceo has limited success. Organisers have to ask everyone to clear the floor during cortinas.
5. Men who think it is ok to ask a women to dance in words,

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Linda
Yes, I've been caught, too!

Best lighting is dim on the dance floor and bright(er) on the seats!

If there is question of who he has "asked"... I smile and nod my acceptance, but stay put, watching his eyes as he comes up to my table; if he is holding -my- eyes, we agree, and I stand up. If his eyes shift to something else as he walks up, I know it's not me.

I try to be on my own at the beginning of a cortina so that there is a clear cabeceo. Or mirada/cabeceo.

Linda